We’ve all heard the scenario. Two witnesses observe the same event, yet recall completely different accounts of what really happened. The two witnesses have two different lenses which with they see the world. They have different states of minds, different prejudices, and different lives. We are all witnesses and observers, but at times, it’s hard to be objective and realize what our true thought patterns are. Our thought patterns create our realities and by consequence the way others perceive us.
I remember being a 15 year old adolescence on my first cruise to the Bahamas. I traveled with my whole family, including my grandmother and her best friend. Throughout the cruise, I remember my grandmother smiling and thanking her luck for being on a luxury cruise with the people she loved most in the world. She loved the service, the shows, slots, and of course the food. How can you not like cruises? Her best friend didn’t. My grandmother’s best friend complained. She saw the negative in the service, the weather, the cheesiness of the shows, and the gluttonous amounts of food. She WAS a negative person. No matter what you put in front of her, there was no way she would see the positive.
The implication of this is pretty far reaching. In fact, The Secret, a movie/book that talks about the law of attraction, points this out very clearly. If your thought patterns tell you that the world is negative, then what will happen is that you will attract more negativity. People will look at you as a negative person and treat you like a negative person. I am willing to bet that had my grandmother’s friend found the winning lottery ticket, she would have griped about the amount of taxes she would have had to pay.
At times you may think that a negative thought is harmless, but over time those thoughts take over your default way of thinking. At work, you may miss opportunity because you tend to look at what’s wrong with a problem instead of what possibilities are out there. People will start to associate you as a pessimist rather than an opportunist. At home, you may stress about the non-important rather than to appreciate the people and things you have.
One of my closest friends came up to me today and asked me for his advice as he was feeling down. My only advice was to appreciate what he had; a great job, a great family, and a great life. The more you appreciate, the more things you will have to be appreciative for.